Why the HECK Did I Do That??!!!
Sep 20, 2023![](https://kajabi-storefronts-production.kajabi-cdn.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/blogs/2147504780/images/44473d8-54fd-b40-56b-cf81d315e08_a59c7d26-b582-4dfb-8cf7-0dd270096bc1.png)
Hello to any folks who chose to read this here blogeroo today!
Have you ever apologized for something and knew it wasn't anything you actually needed to apologize for? I am definitely guilty of that. Ohhhhh so guilty.
It just goes along with my insecurity. I often find myself saying "oh...I'm so sorry!" when it isn't my fault. Even the silliest little everyday things I know aren't my fault. As an example....someone in a store could totally jump in front of me in a long line and I would move over and say "Oh I am sorry I was in your way." Haha. It's automatic, and I can say it honestly makes me question myself all the time. "Why did I just apologize for that person being a jerk?" Maybe because I want so much to make sure people like me and no one thinks I did anything wrong? Maybe because I doubt myself so much that I really believe I did something wrong? Yes, it is a little kooky. Ridiculous, to be frank. (Not ridiculous to be "Frank." I am sure he is a cool dude.)
This may seem small and insignificant, but I wanted to mention it. (Oh..sorry, by the way, if it seems silly. Haha.) I have found that it can actually go the other way and make people think I really was in the wrong. Funny how that happens. It all comes down to believing in yourself. I think I have doubted myself so long that it is an unnecessary habit that has become just part of my norm. It is just another one of the 12,874 things I desperately want to fix about this ol' gal on my journey as a weirdo. I know this post was short and sweet, however, it was on my mind recently, so I thought I would share.
Until next time,
Bethie
Bethie!
Oh my gosh, YES! I notice when people do this all the time and I always say "WELL, IT AIN'T YOUR FAULT!" It's SUCH an easy habit to fall into, isn't it?
Honestly, I think it's part of humility...and there really isn't a lot wrong with being humble. While we don't need to be door mats, being humble is a GOOD thing. Apologizing when you don't need to, though, can also dilute our true, necessary apologies. I think it also makes us feel less confident in ourselves and that is something that most of us on this journey, already lack...confidence. You know what I think the ultimate cause is? We’re afraid of rejection and criticism, so we go out of our way to be accommodating.
There's some things you never need to apologize for:
- Things you didn't actually do
- Things that you have absolutely no control over.
- Things that other people did
- Have a question
- Having a need
- What we look like
- What we feeling like
- Not knowing something
I think it's a good question to ask ourselves...even if it's after the apology. Did I need to apologize for that?
So the next time you apologize to me unnecessarily, imma throw something at you;)
Sorry this was so long.
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