Why the HECK Did I Do That??!!!

 Hello to any folks who chose to read this here blogeroo today! 

Have you ever apologized for something and knew it wasn't anything you actually needed to apologize for? I am definitely guilty of that. Ohhhhh so guilty. 

It just goes along with my insecurity. I often find myself saying "oh...I'm so sorry!" when it isn't my fault. Even the silliest little everyday things I know aren't my fault. As an example....someone in a store could totally jump in front of me in a long line and I would move over and say "Oh I am sorry I was in your way." Haha. It's automatic, and I can say it honestly makes me question myself all the time. "Why did I just apologize for that person being a jerk?" Maybe because I want so much to make sure people like me and no one thinks I did anything wrong? Maybe because I doubt myself so much that I really believe I did something wrong? Yes, it is a little kooky. Ridiculous, to be frank. (Not ridiculous to be "Frank." I am sure he is a cool dude.)

This may seem small and insignificant, but I wanted to mention it. (Oh..sorry, by the way, if it seems silly. Haha.) I have found that it can actually go the other way and make people think I really was in the wrong. Funny how that happens. It all comes down to believing in yourself.  I think I have doubted myself so long that it is an unnecessary habit that has become just part of my norm. It is just another one of the 12,874 things I desperately want to fix about this ol' gal on my journey as a weirdo. I know this post was short and sweet, however, it was on my mind recently, so I thought I would share. 

Until next time,

Bethie

Bethie!

Oh my gosh, YES!  I notice when people do this all the time and I always say "WELL, IT AIN'T YOUR FAULT!"  It's SUCH an easy habit to fall into, isn't it?

Honestly, I think it's part of humility...and there really isn't a lot wrong with being humble.  While we don't need to be door mats, being humble is a GOOD thing.  Apologizing when you don't need to, though, can also dilute our true, necessary apologies.  I think it also makes us feel less confident in ourselves and that is something that most of us on this journey, already lack...confidence.  You know what I think the ultimate cause is? We’re afraid of rejection and criticism, so we go out of our way to be accommodating.

There's some things you never need to apologize for:

• Things you didn't actually do
• Things that you have absolutely no control over.
• Things that other people did
• Have a question 
• Having a need
• What we look like
• What we feeling like
• Not knowing something

I think it's a good question to ask ourselves...even if it's after the apology.  Did I need to apologize for that?

So the next time you apologize to me unnecessarily, imma throw something at you;)

Sorry this was so long.

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